Some Time ago my youngest son came out to my wife and I. I was conflicted for some time about this issue. Don't get me wrong, I love my son dearly. He (my son) is very bright and is currently a Soph. at Ferdonia. I am very proud of him. His life partner is also at Ferdonia with him. I can't help but think this has brought us closer somehow?? I am just worried about him, you well know there are many A__holes out there. It would just kill me if anything would happen to him. Does anyone share this same situation as I??
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04/04/2007 14:01 #38747
Gay Son and a Fathers love.04/04/2007 13:17 #38744
MD's writing scriptsNow I'm not one to complain,BUT.. I was injured in a auto accident 18 months ago. I need surgery, but I am caught in this BS cycle trying to get pain meds from my MD. The surgeon will not give me anything until he cuts me, my primary will not give me anything, he says its the surgeons responsability. I can't take it anymore, I am sick and tired of being in pain.. Does anyone know of a GOOD Doc who will write??
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lewan278 - 04/04/07 14:30
I guess I understand the MD's point of view. My wife is disabled and on SSD due to a industrial accident. She is in Chronic pain and take 2 oxycontin & 6 lortabs a day. Some days this just barley take the pain away. She has undergone approx 200 physical therapy visits, endless injections. and major surgery. She still is in pain. It's hard to watch her suffer somedays, I know we all have our cross to bear.
But anyway, she has to see her MD every several months and submit to a drug test to make sure she is not abusing he scripts. I guess its what the doc's have to do to protect themselves..
I guess I understand the MD's point of view. My wife is disabled and on SSD due to a industrial accident. She is in Chronic pain and take 2 oxycontin & 6 lortabs a day. Some days this just barley take the pain away. She has undergone approx 200 physical therapy visits, endless injections. and major surgery. She still is in pain. It's hard to watch her suffer somedays, I know we all have our cross to bear.
But anyway, she has to see her MD every several months and submit to a drug test to make sure she is not abusing he scripts. I guess its what the doc's have to do to protect themselves..
jenks - 04/04/07 14:22
yeah... I would say that 18mos out if you're still having pain, your best bet might be to try to get referred to a pain specialist (by your PMD). You shouldn't still be having pain. But you're right, the surgeon won't just hand out meds- he'll only treat the pain he 'caused'. But be careful how you proceed, because you don't want to get labelled a drug-seeker. Unfortunately most docs are quite skeptical of chronic pain, maybe unfairly so, but at the same time, most have been burned by someone with ulterior motives (i.e. pt wants to sue someone, etc). Good luck.
yeah... I would say that 18mos out if you're still having pain, your best bet might be to try to get referred to a pain specialist (by your PMD). You shouldn't still be having pain. But you're right, the surgeon won't just hand out meds- he'll only treat the pain he 'caused'. But be careful how you proceed, because you don't want to get labelled a drug-seeker. Unfortunately most docs are quite skeptical of chronic pain, maybe unfairly so, but at the same time, most have been burned by someone with ulterior motives (i.e. pt wants to sue someone, etc). Good luck.
lewan278 - 04/04/07 14:22
It has alot ot do with the Ins. Co.. They want to see if therapy will fix the problem, before they dish out the big$$ for the surgery. I also know alot of folks I know had this type of surgery and was not sucsessful.. I guess I'm a little scared.
It has alot ot do with the Ins. Co.. They want to see if therapy will fix the problem, before they dish out the big$$ for the surgery. I also know alot of folks I know had this type of surgery and was not sucsessful.. I guess I'm a little scared.
joshua - 04/04/07 14:09
No problem. I've heard of people stuck in similar situations such as yours not being able to access medication because of MD conflicts. I wonder why you haven't gotten surgery yet after having been in the accident a year and a half ago - what happened?
No problem. I've heard of people stuck in similar situations such as yours not being able to access medication because of MD conflicts. I wonder why you haven't gotten surgery yet after having been in the accident a year and a half ago - what happened?
jason - 04/04/07 14:02
Sorry to hear about your accident. It was over a year ago and you haven't been worked on? Why is this? I would think the solution is to get your surgery and solve the problem at the root.
Sorry to hear about your accident. It was over a year ago and you haven't been worked on? Why is this? I would think the solution is to get your surgery and solve the problem at the root.
lewan278 - 04/04/07 13:50
Thanks Joshua, For answering my post. A endless supply of Vic's is not my intent. As good as it sounds, I know it's not the answer to anything.. I guess I'm just venting..
Thanks again..
Lewan278
Thanks Joshua, For answering my post. A endless supply of Vic's is not my intent. As good as it sounds, I know it's not the answer to anything.. I guess I'm just venting..
Thanks again..
Lewan278
joshua - 04/04/07 13:43
Your first journal entry is about doctor shopping. Your story very well may be true, and if it is I'm sorry to hear of your plight, but if you are looking for an endless supply of Vicodin you probably aren't going to find an answer here.
Your first journal entry is about doctor shopping. Your story very well may be true, and if it is I'm sorry to hear of your plight, but if you are looking for an endless supply of Vicodin you probably aren't going to find an answer here.
Thanks for the input.. There is one thing about my son, he does have alot of confidence in hiself. I am thankful for that, I was told that it takes alot of courage for him to come out to us. I guess I am lucky..
Lewan
People have persecuted others for being different as long as we have been spinning here on this rock. Nero used to make sport of burning up Christians, same with Caligula. No doubt your son will have difficulties to some extent. I am not gay and so I have not had to deal with that specific kind of hate.
My only input really is to say that as long as your kid knows that he is loved and supported, it will help him to gain the confidence he needs to parry whatever kind of attack, verbal or otherwise.